If you get to a point where you can say, it could go either way for me and I am OK with it going either way... I am fighting because that's what I want, not because I am terrified of the alternative. Exactly what I meant above: if the LBS is operating from a position of fear rather than confidence, the actions are going to reflect that. You must be doing what's best for you/your marriage, NOT worried about the reaction of WAS.
i believe this is the mentality that keeps some folks stuck and unable to detach or drop the rope.
i hope those having difficulties with the 'set them free' thread read this.
there are a lot of good things in that post that i could quote every single section but it's best to just read it entirely.
