Quick question, one Im pretty sure has been answered before, Im not trying to be obtuse, just dont have the time to go back thru all 15 pages of my thread and search, I have to get going, should have been over at my new place painting already today, but I saw puppy or Coach in another thread say something about most WAW's want the LBH to "fight" for the R, despite what they say. So the question is, how do I "fight" for the R ? How do I "lead" ? From what I understand, WAW's current sitch is FAR from "bette" then what we had, other then the fact that she see's her twins ALL THE TIME now. This came up the other day, and she said "I've put others before my kids before and I REFUSE to do that anymore!"
"Others" referring to how WAW felt about her putting ME and how I felt or did or didnt want to do concerning OUR kids. Maybe she really felt she did, at the very least she has herself convinced she did, whether its accurate or not is irrelevent, its her perception that matters.
So in a way, the current sitch is the worst it could be, because the twins are 15. I cant conceive of her sitch getting to the point that she would come back to OUR family while the twins are minors. I always had a sneaking suspicion that any reconciliation would have to wait until her kids with OM are 18. And even if thats not the case, my new house is only a 2 bedroom, so I wouldnt have room for everyone even if she came crawling back next month.
And since she was so upset about our moving around alot and her desperately wanting to establish "roots" and "stability", I have a funny feeling that offering to move to a bigger house would just further validate her feelings that Im not "stable"
