Got a call out of the blue from a friend, closest thing I've had to a sister and someone thats known both me and the WAW for our entire relationship. When everything first blew up she was firmly on the WAW's side. But last night she had done a complete 180 and was empathizing with ME ! Saying she knew WAW was a compulsive liar, was pissed with WAW for putting the kids thru this, was pissed with WAW for sucking her into her drama, felt I was a victim of emotional abuse from the WAW for the last several years.
She pointed out that WAW is well known for being a " drama queen", as a means to get attention and "pity parties" on a regular basis. Sis was really saying a whole lot of things that were really insightful and on point, but I have to admit Im a bit suspicious about her motives, considering she was firmly in the WAW camp 6 weeks ago. I know this because things I said to Sis in confidence almost immediately got back to WAW. So I kept my guard up somewhat.
"Sis" said she is fed up with WAW. Says she still loves her, but is fed up with her behavior and doesnt care if they are best friends anymore or not. Says WAW wont call her because WAW knows she wont be able to BS "Sis" and Sis will "give it to her " straight, to the point and call her out on what she's doing and has done.
Sis was PISSED at WAW for being so crass as to invite OM and his family to OUR daughters Bday party at my Dad and StepMoms house. Was also PISSED at my folks for even considering agreeing to such a thing. Thats right, WAW has announced that OM and others from his family will be attending OUR daughters Bday party and MY families house !
According to WAW, her former MIL is poised to sign over custody of their twins to her and if she has to kiss @ss and do things or agree to things she doesnt want to do to get custody of the twins then thats what she'll do.
REALLY difficult to decide what to do here. I can have another party for DD at my mothers house on another date and decide to NOT show up at my Dad's house for DD party. And thats really what I feel like doing TBH. But I know if I am a no show for DD's party where OM will be present, that WAW will spin it in her mind as I couldnt "suck it up " and "be a man " long enough to be there for DD and make sure she has a great day, because Im being "selfish" about MY feelings about the sitch and having OM shoved in my face.
Part of me says go do the party, make sure DD has a great day and act " as if " and show WAW that her pettiness doesnt phase me a bit. But the other part of me says proceeding with the party as planned will only show the WAW that she can continue to treat me like dirt and I'll still be around.
Sis also pointed out that if WAW REALLY wanted to save our R, she would have and certainly could have called a counselor and made the appointment on her own. Which is certainly true, but Sis and I and others know that WAW simply doesnt have the intellectual capacity to think along those lines. She's NOT a "stupid" person, but she has very little education, barely finished her GED, doesnt read much of anything, etc.
Sis said its obvious that WAW actually is "addicted" to being "miserable" and the attention she gets from it.
Sis pointed out something that happened Xmas 2001. I had gotten WAW a star in her name thru the International Star Registry. Thought it was really romantic, wrote in a card about how "her star" would always be a guiding light to find my way home, etc. Really sappy stuff right ? But still thought it was very romantic.
Sis was at our place when she opened it and lets just say that WAW's reaction was FAR from enthuisiastic, more like " oh, thats nice". Sis said the look on my face from WAW's reaction to the gift broke her heart. Dont really know why I put that last paragraph in there, guess Im babbling now.
OASN, my Doc has me on Paxil. Have been for the last three days. Everyone I talked to said it would take a couple weeks to kick in, but I noticed physical effects almost immediately. Get really sleepy and kind of loopy about an hour after I take it at night, sleep straight through instead of tossing and turning all night and getting up at 4AM, feel kind of "buzzed" first thing in the morning. Maybe its nothing more then a placebo effect, but it seems like my moods are more "steady". Still get "blips" up and down in my feelings, but they're more speed bumps then huge peaks and valleys. Anyone have any personal experience with Paxil ?
