Originally Posted By: BeTheMan


I have my script almost prepared and will do my best to stick to it. I am going to tell her that things seemed to be getting better before we went away, but now I realize not truly better. We were not building a better relationship built on mutual respect and admiration - she was just being nicer to me and that made me feel good.

But...whenever she isn't doing so, I feel bad about myself. While I am quite confident in other areas of my life, I lose my confidence around her. I feel like I am always trying to please her, and that is no way for me to live. So, I need us have decided to be separate during our separation - no more dating, dinners, touching. I want to remain friends civil and if possible, still be able to do things with our kids at some point, but right now I need to feel it's best to let her go completely, I need space and I need to focus on my life without her. make some decisions.

I will admit that I still care for her, but since I will never be the man she wants me to be, we will never be truly happy together, so really being separate is the best solution.



BTM,

Consider dropping the parts I've struck thru above. They sound needy. You want to convey a "I've been thinking, and I've decided that -- " mentality, not a "it hurts too much to be around you" one.

Decisive strength, not wounded guy.

Good luck.

Puppy