I found Acorn's thread to be really thought provoking, too. I know DB includes fixing ourselves, looking within to see where we might have flaws, but I think, and I know I'm guilty of this, we can go to far in stifling our thoughts and not saying the things we feel. Sage mentioned that her H noticed her walking on eggshells, so to speak, working at choosing the right words. There is a blance between giving them the time to think and space, but if we don't respect ourselves and our own thoughts, how in the world will they ever do the same?
I think you have great advice on the boundaries to be drawn. You can control your reaction, try some of the things for a week and see what happens.
