She needs time to cool off, Ken. It's too much drama and emotion to think clearly right now. She's going to need some time to decompress and process - maybe even weeks or months.
Continue to give her space and continue your GALing. Once she gets through her withdrawal, she may start to think clearly and gravitate back toward you.
If she does press the divorce issue, make HER be the bad guy. You can't stop her from filing, but you can contest it, if that's what you want. And you can always tell your kids later, "I FOUGHT for our family. Your mother's the one who destroyed it."
