The r was unhealthy. She was not healthy, niether was I. I don't want to bring someone else down. But i do crave some company right now from a female.
This is the part I worry about.
The whole "don't date until you heal" thing is about not running from one failed unhealthy relationship to another one because you cannot stand to be alone.
Being alone is really not all of that bad once you let go of the neediness.
Once the "need" for female company is gone, then you can be more descriminating about who and how deeply you get involved.
I speak from personal experience here. I think my last relationship and marriage had a lot more to do with me needing something than wanting something.
You see, I am a transplant to the region where I now live, and I work from home.
I have lived here 5 years. In that time I have been in a non-commited R for 6 months total really, so I never developed a social network here, and to be honest I am struggling with how I even go about that because a lot of who I am as a person has changed so much over the last 5 years (and over the last 15 years too), so my interests have changed, I don't like bars, organized religion is not my thing, the sporting activities I like are more individualist (and the groups that exist for these are mostly filled with people much younger than myself). My good friends are scattered across the USA, and I rarely get to actually see them.
So... from a NEED perspective... what I really NEED is a better support network. Again... neediness. Ahhhh.
People are around people. People connect to people they like and admire. I personally don't think isolation is normally a good thing. He should be recieving the benefits of having these social oils greasing his wheels that come from the interactions.
