Training for a Marathon, Hoping for a Sprint

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Why does she want you to go on the trip but does not want to be married to you?

We share an interest in the topics of the trip and have always worked together on trips like this.

I just think it would be beneath you to give her that 'social' blanket. She would be too embarrassed to take him, but you on her arm is socially acceptable. Nah. She's cake eatin'. You have plans on those days - book a trip to the beach for yourself!

Does she want you both?

No, she has made it clear to me that she has made a choice and it isn't me.

Go dark on her...I'll bet she's not nearly as sure as she said she is.

Which calls to mind - now that she is living with someone else, has she filed for D?

No. One, she has no grounds based on her assessment of my performance as her husband and two, she has expressed that she does not want to make any decisions like that for a long time. Accounts are still joint, Beneficiaries are staying the same, we are both still paying the same bills we payed before. Btw, she makes about double what I do, so it isn't for her own financial benefit that she wants to wait.

And you are supposed to sit and wait for her to be ready to make that move? I'm with the fellas who suggest you give her the speech. "W, I have decided that I will not live in an open M. Your actions are disrespectful to our M and I will not support what you are doing. I will interview lawyers first thing Monday morning and set about ending this intolerable arrangement." Then don't take calls, don't answer texts and don't visit her at work. Goodness don't go on that trip. Take yourself out to update your wardrobe, spiff up, and GAL. You - you - you have some healing to do, don't you MC? She's not the only one who has been through the worst nightmare. You have, too, and you need to process the next steps, too. Waiting for her to tell you how it's going to be is not an option.

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