I think exposure backfired?

[AntoniaB]

Doormat in denial, that's funny. Oh Allen I forgot to mention this because we've talked a lot about exposure. Guess what? No one is willing to pressure him to end the affair. Family, friends, whichever. They won't do it. I've asked people to support me by pressuring him to end it, and no one will do it. They just keep telling me that their not being in contact with him is a form of that pressure and they aren't "comfortable" with any more than that. In addition, we have a few mutual friends, who have kept the communication lines with him open. They just say they don't want to take sides. They love us both and they think that cutting him off or telling him "we don't support what you're doing as long as you're having an affair" is too harsh and they don't want to do that to him. They feel like it would fan the flames too much to take a stand. Some say they just figure that eventually their relationship with him will fizzle out. I mean, he hasn't been taking the OW around to see them or anything, it's like they're involved but he's not forcing her on to people, but I just cannot get anyone to take a side. So that's why I guess the exposure stage just won't work.