IB...I have an understanding of where you are in this...your sich mirrored mine in many ways except for the $40 hook-ups...he just got a younger OW for a while...
I can tell you that I shared a lot of your same emotions and feelings...I too extended invitations where appropriate but my H was very distant and avoided contact even with the kids...
I think it was those invites, combined with my changes and his accepting treatment for his many health and emotional issues (that I honestly thought he would never ever admit to) that eventually let to his return...he has been home for 4 years and happy for the better part of last 3 years...it took time but I hung in there...
Just sharing a positive outcome to such a devistating situation...something to give you hope during this journey...no matter where it takes you!
