The saga continues

[OfficerInNeed]

Congratulations...

I always thought when this day came that W told me she wanted to work on our marriage I would be overwhelmed with joy but I am not because I know this is only the begging.

OIN... THAT statement is evidence that you aren't as ready as you SHOULD have been. You had all these months to learn about how to be a happy man and you were too focused on other things. NOW you need the discipline of being a happy man and you have nothing to fall back on as practice. It is showing evidence that maybe you are the type who is never happy. You weren't happy and drove her away for ten years, then when she wanted out you weren't happy that she wanted out and you kept worrying and acted unhappy while she was distant. NOW you get what you want and you still refuse to be happy. NOTICE A PATTERN HERE?

Your pattern is that you find a way NOT to be happy. That will be the death of your marriage. Women rarely leave a happy man OIN. Rarely. You better quickly bask in the moment and learn to be a happy man. If you don't then your pattern is to find something to be UNHAPPY about. It becomes an addiction to be unhappy. Don't fall for that trap.




Before we can give you wise counsel and advice, it would be a good idea if you fill in the blanks on what actually happened between when you left us a couple of days ago and what happened today. Fill in those blanks. Why did you leave that information out?

OK, I am happy, honestly I am. BUT I do not expect it to be an easy road from here and because of that I am remain humble.

I left the past few days out because it is a long log and I am heading out the door for work.

But gucci you are right, I was always said to be a miserable person by many people. I don;t feel the way I use too, I feel more confident and have a better(healthier) outlook on life.