Help - Is H coming Around?

[ShellDoll]

TH - Thank you. I know it is impossible for anyone on the boards to tell me if my M will survive. For a long time, I was careless in my my treatment of the M. While I was always caring, I did complain about my job and the frustrations I faced everyday, bring this home on many occasions. My H was a very laid back guy who just liked to have fun, and he said I brought him down. He said, after a while, I didn't make him feel good about himself, because I myself was depressed.

I always thought that no matter what words I spoke or said, even complaining about something other than my spouse/relationship, that my H would ALWAYS be there. Well, I was wrong.

Over the last 2 to 3 years, just began slipping away from the relationship and after our 2 week cruise (which was in his mind our last attempt - I did not know), he made up his mind that he wanted to separate. He felt very unappreciated at work, didn't have but one friend and here was this women (the OW) that was offering a different kind of attention. Not sure about how you all feel about this, but I believe the OW was just the first person My H let himself connect with, and if you did that with a lot of people, you'd find a lot of joy in life and wouldn't feel the need to "be with" any particular woman.

I know that I am too concerned about who he is communicating with. I need to stop and continue to look to me. What possibilities exist in rebuilding a new relationship with my H nce he returns home?

I am also very concerned that he able to file for D (even while deployed) in January 2011 (1 year separation required and his time overseas counts toward separation). It's strange how the Sailors/Soldiers Act for potection against being suing is not applicable to spouses of the soldiers/sailors overseas. It is only applicable to soldiers and sailors overseas - so my H can sue me for D while he is deployed but I cannot do the same (as advised by my L), even though that is not what I want to ever do.

Geezz.....Any response?