I think you are doing great by the sounds of it... After the affair is ended there is about three months of withdrawal...
This is even tougher if they keep communicating at work. He really needs to minimize that if he has any respect for you. I really do'nt know why he has to talk to her at all...
I am a bit suspiciuos about someone who claims to have ended their affair, continues to talk at work and still pushes for divorce... SOrry, but I don't know if I believe the affair is over...
Affairs do NOT die easily, you have to keep beating them on the head with a baseball bat for weeks.. there's often a LOT of backpeddling and up and down on and off time... Gradually teh excitement of the affair wears off and the embarassing stress isn't worth it anymore.
Keep talking wtih him.. do NOT dwell on the divorce... show him what he's giving UP if he chooses divorce ... Don't take filing as meaning its over... many people change their minds at the last minute.
Important question... Did he file when he was expecting the OW to be waiting for him?
That may be a huge point in your favour if he was hoping OW would be there for him when he was divorced...
I would not complain about the divorce, I would try to show him what he'll be missing.
I certaily hope he knows his life with you is NEVER over since you have kids togehter... Have you read the first chapter of Divorce Remedy?
Kids HATE divorce, it makes them miserable and does a LOT of emotinoal damage.
If your H was expecting OW to be there after the divorce and NOW she's not and He has kids iwth you he really needs to start thinking this through a LOT MORE
ARe you two seeing a GOOD family tehrapist?
Not a quack shrink, a real family tehrapist with a degree in social work i mean...
