Now thru my countless times of bringing up the Big R in our little time spent together (very bad). I received this Email from her yesterday:
"Look im just done dont want to be with anyone at all...dont want to be married anymore as well. i understand that i may not have given you a fair chance and im sorry. but i just want to move on with myself and be alone. and yeah my track record does suck. sure but i just dont want it anymore."
Agree with her.
- She expects you to fight this all the way. - She expects you to argue with her on this and she expects to be forced into marriage counselling and forced into having a relationship with you that she currently doesn't want.
She really wants freedom from you, then give it to her, give her 100% freedom from you, agree with her feelings, agree with what she wants and give her the one thing she's asking for.
And that's it.
That's your solution.
If she wants to come back after after her freedom from you and the marriage, it's a decision she will have to make.
View the recent gucci thread on this very topic.
Don't spend years languishing trying 100's of different things in an attempt to get her to come back, do the one thing that has the greatest chance of being successful even though it's counter-intuitive and goes against everything your mind is telling you to do (which is pursue her, email her, text her, call her, leave msg's, write letters, plead, beg, grovel, buy gifts, offer to "change and be a better man").
I mean you could spend all your time doing these things or you could just randomly peruse any number of the WAW threads on these forums and notice that these things don't really work.
And if they don't really work, why bother doing them?
If you want something that works, do what actually works.
If you need more info, I'll post a few quotes and a link to that thread but it should be pretty easy to find on this newcomers forum, it's probably on the 4th or 5th page right now.
