Imagine....a grown woman who resents her H receiving attention when he's fighting for his life. For her to say it was "all about you" when you were sick is the most immature and downright selfish thing I believe I've heard yet! She really has a problem....and I don't think her problem is "you" at all.
Since you have met her, have you noticed that she has a hard time keeping friendships or maintaining R's within her family? Forgive me if you have already stated. It sounds like she isn't happy anytime she isn't the center of everyone's attention and is jealous of the person who is stealing her spotlight. I've seen women who were even jealous of their own daughters whenever it should have been their (the D)special event.
Okay, so she feel "uncomfortable" with you in the same bed, and with you in the same house with her. That is her problem (being uncomfortable) and therefore you should not be the one to leave the master bedroom or the house. If anyone leaves.....she should be the one to do so.
IMO, a woman such as your W seems to be, has to be handled with tough love. I also think she will need some sort of a crises to force her eyes open. You would think that almost losing her H would be crises enough....but that's not the right "kind" of crises she needs. She's selfish.....so the crises needs to be all about her and hit her where it hurts the most.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
