The message was sent to "mom" so that you would know what he was doing and also to get a reaction out of you. He wanted you to know that he was out and about and w/whom. He planted the seeds so that you would have to worry about what he was doing. He may not have gone out w/the 40 yr old ow at all, but wanted you to think he did. Again, for a reaction. To the MLCer it is all about perception and how we see them. They want to be Mr. Macho and still have the capability of chasing women and keeping up the good life just as they did as young adults. They are trying to prove to themselves and you that they are Mr. Popular and can do whatever they want just as they many years ago.
Life does have a way of catching up w/them. It's any wonder he's stressed. However, he brought all of this on himself and he will have to figure re it all out. While he's figuring himself out, keep the focus on you and your children. Your children need you more than ever during this time.
Try not to analyze everything he says or does...it will drive you crazy.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
