He can take all the time he needs to get thru the MCL. I can't stand the sneaking around, the lying, his playing me for a fool, talking about it, worrying about it, thinking about it.
Ummm. That's what MLC looks like, if you mean the first sentence, then get used to the second. THIS is why you must DETACH. THIS is why you must GAL. Your posts are all about H, all about OW ... you are obsessing. Only you can control and stop this behaviour - YOUR behaviour.
Just for the record, I agree that A's are addictions, I just also believe that coupled with the other symptoms of MLC that a different approach may be warrented, if saving the marriage is the outcome you're looking for. If you are prepared to live with the possible consequences of the strict addiction approach, that's your choice as well. Remember, none of this ... none of the approaches or advice are guarenteed to save your marriage. Over here in MLC, it's why we focus on saving YOU. Your marriage might just be lucky enough to be the by-product of that rescue effort.
Taylor, do nothing. Calm down and get control of yourself and your emotions. You are going to HAVE emotions, but you do not have to BEHAVE based on them. This does not mean you pretend anything is A-OK ...
I agree re the STD tests, do not trust that he told you when the PA started. Protect yourself, your health, your finances. If you're right you've had a rather embarrassing test, if you're wrong you can potentially catch and treat a dangerous STD. What do you have to lose?
This sucks. No two ways about it. Feel the anger, release it in a constructive way, and get the focus back on YOU.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
