Training for a Marathon, Hoping for a Sprint

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Oh boy, Looking ~ I am so very sorry for your family's loss. I cannot imagine. I pray for any and all comforts you can find! Blessings! Prayers!

Your W - talk about someone who wants to escape PAIN! And who can blame her, but this is not the way. But my goodness, I can imagine the desperation is unimaginable...for both of you.

I wish your MC would not have talked you out of packing and delivering her stuff to OM's place. I think that would have been a good move, to bring her things to her there and deliver this message: "W, you have made your decision to leave our home and go to OM's bed. I have decisions to make, too. I will be interviewing lawyers first thing tomorrow morning to help me settle the legal aspects of our divorce. I will not wait for you to change your mind. You have made a definite move and I will now take my steps into a new future, too."

Then go dark on her. Don't take her calls. You are too busy. Don't go to see her when she asks you, too. That was something you would have been happy to do when you were a couple, but Looking, she is sleeping with another man at this time - you are not a couple. By you seeing her, taking her calls, talking with her, doing whatever you are doing now - she gets to have her new man lover and her old man BFF. Cut her off. Let her really feel the impact of the choice she has made. Most times what we find in these cases is that the WAS doesn't really like the reality of this. It doesn't align with the fantasy. But she'll never know - you'll never know - if you let her have it both ways.

Meantime for you - GAL. Go out and do the things YOU like. Take a hobby/activity that you used to do. Start one you've always wanted to try. Find old friends. Socialize. Take care of YOU. Improve. Grow.

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