How do I save my marriage to husband in MLC?

[RLay1100]

Just an Update:

H IS still infatuated with the 19 yo and sleeping with her, but now he is also talking more frequently with the 40 yo ex, even going to visit with her at her home a couple of times.

Two evenings ago, H "accidentally" sent a text to me that was worded like it was for his nephew (brother of nephew whose fiance H is cheating with). It was instructing nephew where to find the key to his house if his other nephew and [the 19 yo girl he's having A w/] want to go swimming in his pool..."going on a date be back later..." I didn't respond, of course, but even though it looked like it was worded for someone else, I believe he meant to send the text to me. I am assuming he wouldn't really want to reveal he is going on a date with someone else and risk that info getting back to his OW, but what would be his motivation for suddenly rubbing it in my face he is going on a date?

After he got back from visiting with the 40 yo ex, he posted on his secret MySpace page to the 19 yo that he "really really missed holding [her] in his arms..." and that he loves her so much. How can he go on dates and act interested in one woman, while he is "in love" and sleeping with another? He always said (and still tells me when I mention her) that she (the 40 yo) is not what he wants anyway. So...I don't get it.

On a more positive note, H has been NICE to me in the last few interactions I have had with him. After dropping the boys off a couple of weeks ago, H looked VERY sad and lost. I just kept worrying about him after he left and ended up texting him asking him if he was okay. He responded, "I'm doing fine just stressed a little over being so broke but i'll get back to working soon." I replied that I understood and that I believed he would do fine. His response was, "Thnk u. You will do fine 2 u r very smart and a stronge woman. I will help u all i can when i get on my feet." I didn't respond, and then he texted wishing me a good night.

Yesterday, I emailed him because I thought my cell phone services had been interrupted (I am late on the bill). He emailed me: "...I'm sorry they cut it off...I paid the ins so they wouldn't cancel it...I'm trying to find a job now so when i do i'll help you." I have been so upset and stressed about having to work 12 hrs/day 6 days/wk and am still not able to make the bills, and emailed him back: "I am trying and fighting so hard. I am exhaausted. We are both strong and resourceful, though- we WILL get through this." H followed with, "i knw it's hard i wll help u all i can as soon as i get 2 working it will make it easier on u." ...and I didn't respond anymore.

When H showed up to get the boys yesterday evening, he actually looked me in the eyes when we talked to each other. He had a smile on his face the entire time we were interacting, and I caught him just watching me as I quietly gave my boys a kiss, hug, and told them I loved them. About 30 minutes after he left with them, he texted me telling me I should check out this website he had found that he thought I would be intersted in. I didn't respond.

The interactions are nice, but I realize that doesn't mean much. He IS still having an A and pursuing multiple women on top of that. But it was so nice to see him talk with me as a person of quality instead of as his enemy.