Thanks NM & Sunny D - you ladies are so sweet! Appreciate it!
You know - I FEEL like a different person these days (thanks, Larry!). I've been working on me, GALing, doing lots of reading ("Magic of Believing" - good stuff!), and working in my online business.
Larry's program is about becoming an Environment Changer - changing your environment by changing yourself. I still have a LONG way to go to get where I want to be, but you know what? At least I'm THINKING about the future these days instead of wallowing in self-pity and wondering what WH saw in OW that he didn't see in me. I can go days without thinking about her now.
Granted, things between WH and me aren't nearly as rough as most of the situations on these boards, but our marriage was threatened and may end still, though I think the odds of that happening grow less and less each day.
Evidence: He was afraid to disappoint me this morning.
The colleague's get together we were supposed to go to on the 4th got moved to today. I asked him on Wednesday what time and what to bring and he said he'd call her, but forgot. When he called this morning, she said that because she hadn't heard back from him, she'd made other plans.
I had to hear, "I was busy, you haven't been around much, we're ships passing in the night --" before he got to the point: "it's cancelled." I said, "Oh, that's too bad! I was looking forward to seeing her. Maybe next time. What would you like to do instead?"
He seemed relieved I wasn't devastated, which I find VERY cute. Six weeks ago, IF he'd invited me, he'd have said, "It's off, get over it" with no preamble.
So, he's back to caring what I think now. Always a good sign.
