I think that she's afraid of me kicking her out and "losing" her daughters. She thinks I try and convince her of my point of view, and that I don't here what she's saying. But she changes what she says all the time because she doesn't want to rock the boat; ends up lying and ruining my trust.
For example, we were talking about separating to different rooms in the house, and I asked her point blank if sleeping in the same bed was a problem. She said no. Then during our fight last night she says she goes to bed, and I come to bed 20 minutes later, and she lies there for hours uncomfortable. So she has a big problem with honesty, as well as engaging in a conversation. Her idea of a discussion is just her talking and me listening.
I understand that she needs to vent sometimes, just needs someone to listen to her problems and fears. But we also need to do the stuff our MC is asking us to do, and that means talking about the "grass being greener" type of stuff, about how to have enough space etc.
But it really boils down to her avoiding a decision; she either needs to leave and deal with the consequences, or she needs to stay and make things better. There's no middle ground.
I just need to be patient while she works this out, while I follow my DB plan. GAL is fun, but it's so hard to turn of being Mr Fixit when I see her in pain. She still hasn't told a single family member what's going on, cuz she's afraid of what she'll hear.
