Came home Friday, and when W heard I had lunch with my sister (whom she works with) she had a meltdown; "I don't have anyone to talk to now!" Yada Yada Yada. Ironic considering she's the one who's said she has tons of friends and that being social is easy for her, while I'm the no life introvert.
She wanted to talk, so while our Ds were outside, I listened to her go on and on about how uncomfortable she was with me in the house. About the only thing I really said was that our MC wanted us to sit down and discuss boundaries and space so she could think through all of the issues. W just kept focusing on not losing "her babies" and how she had no options. She made a big dramatic show of throwing away the MC notes and saying "Forget it, I'll just suck it up like I have before."
She also made a few comments about how when I was sick, no one paid her any attention, that it was all about me because I had cancer...These were really bitter and angry comments, and showed that she is harboring a huge amount of anger, bitterness and resentment.
She also said that she felt like all the improvements I had been making in myself were just to win her back, that I was checking off items on her "honey do" list, expecting them to win her back. I told her that I was focusing on three things, taking better care of myself health wise, being a great father, and becoming a better person.
The book our MC is having her read is Too Good To Leave, Too Bad to Stay, and the very first question is "when things were good in your relationship, were they really good or have they been questionable all along." It's kind of a quintessential question, and she said she thought that they had been bad from the start. I think this is a lie, or she's just been a great liar for 13 years.
So when I saw that all she was going to do was dig her heels in about "sucking it up" so she could be with our Ds, I told her that I was going to go out and I'll see you later. Stayed out til midnight then came home.
