Interested in your last line there NM! Is that how you really felt; like he was the sperm donor? That could be really good detachment at work!
Just catching up, and I can relate to the playing off the two parents thing... My parents divorced when I was 4 and I spent two nights a week, mid week, with my father. When Dad was annoying me, I ran to Mum. When Mum was annoying me, I ran to Dad. 2 birthdays, two Christmas'. I think I wasn't pushed and I think I do often act like the helpless one, wanting others to bail me out and look after me. I don't know if that is because of the split homes, or just my character.
I never saw what I lived in a negative light. We always put the spotlight on 'the best of both worlds', as both homes were quite different.
I also agree with the poster that says life is messy. It's not supposed to be neat. I wish it were neat, to be honest!!!


Me 36; H 40
baby born in May
M:13, T:15
Bomb (OW): Dec 09
began DBing: Feb
WH overseas with OW
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