Long story short: STBX got some nerve injury on her last out-of-area adventure. She's been to the barber thrice this week. She's on vaguely heavy pain meds. It's also her custody time. She insists on keeping the time. Themselves are trying to be brave, but the sight of a parent-in-pain is frightening to them. Neither one of us really has anyone "here" -- we were always the "here" person for each other.
So. If I offer to watch Themselves, prepare their meals (and, incidentally, feed Herself as well, since there would obviously be food), and make myself available on an as-needed basis while she works through this injury... is that rescuing? Is that sticking my nose in "her" time (a la @Gypsy)?
Or is it just doing what needs to be done? I don't want to DB this woman, but look -- this is a divorce, not a suicide mission. She's stubborn, but even she's not so stubborn that she'll kill herself (metaphorically) simply to look "good."
So should I kill myself -- which I'd be doing, psychically, with worry -- and remain the Paragon of Solitary Manitude?
Or should I just be what I am -- a sap of a father -- and pitch in when it's needed?
