PEI..too late..it's already been done. I got pretty pissed when I saw the credit card statement and saw that he was wining and dining her at our favorite hotels and resturants. I just couldn't stand that he was having sex with her and spending our money to take her places. So, I told everyone. I kept it to myself for several months because he asked me to, but that was the final straw. He lied and lied and is still lying. He has told me that it's like an addiction and that he knows he needs to let it go, but is having a hard time. it's probably all the sneaking around and excitement. Honestly..I'm starting to wonder if they don't deserve each other. It won't work out and he will have ruined so many lives...it will bother him til the day he dies..I know him well. I guess we all make our choices and then have to live with them. I can live a happy life, knowing I did nothing wrong and fought hard for my marriage.
I understand about the MLCer and the WAH being different. And I sympathize with his mental illness. But..I am worth more than that. I deserve to be treated with love and respect..no matter what he is going thru. i know I've said I'll wait for him to come to his senses..but not if he's having sex with her. That's just wrong in my book. I have not told him that in so many words..but i think he knows how i feel about that..which is why he's sneaking around with the phone, and computer stuff. I also think he knows it won't work with her, which is why he's here. i think you guys refer to those Hs as cake eaters. It's so morally corrupt.
