Hey Puppy, I was wondering if you could give some advice. I don't know if you have read any of my threads Sandi, Allen and others on here have been helpful and given some good advice. W and I have been separated for about 2 months now.
I found out about affair in Feb. As far as I know there has been no contact with OM. W has been remorseful and even was continuing MC although we had secession about 2 weeks ago & she said she was not going anymore. Oh well our MC is also my IC and was seeing the whole family for a while now just me and S.
Well after the first time in Jan W said she was done. Now again she says she is done. So I’m at a lost. Not only are we dealing with this Affair situation, but W is also dealing with issues from the past. One of them includes the affair her ex had on her while she was pregnant.
I do trust her. It's just hard based on what’s happened, but I want to make our M work. The other night after we calmed down from arguing, somehow we got on different subjects.
W asked me why I would want to try and make us work after all that she has put me through. I said it's called forgiveness and I can forgive her as well as some of the things I have done. W said she’s not sure she can forgive for what she has done.
I’m trying to stay away like everybody has said I need to do including my IC. The people her and my IC seem to be the only ones who think our M has a chance.( I know I can’t count on anything, but it aint over till all my hope is gone). Well I can’t sleep so I think I’m going to the gym. thanks talk soon Hope
