Sondderly, his was a PA..from my guesstimation it started Feb 2009 and continued even after he told me about it last fall and that he had broken it off. He told me he wanted to move to a family member's to "think things thru and figure out what he wanted to do" (because he loved her), but really what he wanted to do was have free reign to see her every weekend and screw her brains out without making things worse with me. He moved back in Feb, moved out in March again and then back first part of April after he broke it off with her..or so he says. He told me that she said if he came home she was done with him..and that he would never hear from her again. Well, 3 weeks later, she texted him and they have been in contact ever since. He says he hasn't seen her, but who knows..he travels for work so they could be meeting up every week for all I know. So he probably is having an EA with her now. But you can bet that they'll meet one of these days..just for coffee or because one of them is in the area. He'll want her to see his new buff body.
When he moved out and I found out that he was seeing her every weekend, I told my kids and they have told the other family members. My brother knows and some friends..and his mom, and his daughter..he told them. So I guess in a sense the affair has been busted. Everyone was shocked that he would do something like that. He's lost lots of respect in the eyes of everyone that knows.
And you're right about him defending her when I have brought it up. i don't talk about it much anymore with him. Unless I find out someting new. I really just want it to go away..I want her to go away..she is a skanky ugly dykey bit$$. And he had the nerve to tell me she was alot like me..not a chance. i would never go after a married man and break up a family like that.
I'm getting to the point where I'm starting to think that he maybe needs to go and be with her. That might be the only way he will be able to find out what she really is. Otherwise he'll live in this fantasy, dreaming about how wonderful it could have been with her. She's 8 or so years younger than him and acts just like a guy..and i wasn't kidding when I said she was really homely. Maybe she'll cheat on him too. He says he knows she isn't very attractive but she's fun to be around. Now there's a good reason to throw away a 20 year relationship and everything you've worked so hard for.
Anyway, you can probably tell its a sore spot for me.
