Another thing is that you would have to face your H if he ends up living here and you co-parent...I have no choice but to see stbxh 6 days per week just to exchange S.

Is it possible to leave when he is there? Or avoid him? That is what I did the last 1/3-1/2 of stbxh's visits.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004