"Identity Crisis" no OW - be friends or not?

[MHL]

I glad it helped. Sometimes it is something small that keeps us "grounded" during all this mess.

I think Eric said it earlier "we are not professionals" and so what we offer are opinions and hopefully experience, friendship, understanding.

With that being said, something that has helped me have compassion and empathy for my W is the read up on this stuff. The resource threads here in MLC will give you alot of insight, if your H is going through MLC.

I found patience with the knowledge I have gained about relationships, marriages, and my role in that marriage. In that vein I started a journey of self discovery that has impacted me and those I care most for around me. My children, my family, my friends and hopefully my W.

Glad you are nuturing the friendship, that will be the foundation for rebuilding your M. Work on you though do not work on the R, your work on the R will be to have patience. As you discover things about yourself you will be tempted to talk about it with your H.....Don't. Make the changes real, make the changes stick, don't tell him about it, show him.

Time and Patience, Gatsby