IB, I never put too much stock in what phase my h was in. Partly because I'm still not sure if my h is a walkaway with MLC.
And really, it doesnt matter what stage he's in. They often facilate between them all. And all MLCers are different. If you try to figure it out, you get caught up in timelines and that doesnt help you at all. It really just upsets you.
So, I want to keep reminding you that you are very early into this. You, of course, will have huge feelings of distress and sadness. How could you not? Your whole world has been turned upside down. Everything you thought you knew, you thought you had, all changed in a moment.
And I am sure you are worn down from years of trying to fix things.
That is why you must take care of yourself. Rest. Eat. Excerise. Pray if you are inclined. Read. Walk. Go out with a friend.
Take the time you need to regroup. And when you are ready, you will begin to see the things you need in order to come through this.
