Well my H is a guy. So I'm not sure what the female part of it is you mean. Anyway, what is it that you recommend? The other guys ..Mach, Grit, Puppy, eric, Tulsa..been talking to them. I don't get the feeling that they are recommending busting the A.
For the record, LT, I always recommend busting the affair first. Separate the addict from the source of their addiction FIRST, and THEN address the pre-affair marital problems.
