There are other FT's out there who SPECIALIZE in infidelity.
There are fundamentally two approaches to dealing with an affair LMW... a softball and a hardball
MWD advocates the softball, or as Puppy coined it a while back "Little Bo Peep" strategy... basically being the better option by being mr nice guy or mrs nice guy... not bringing up the affair... waiting it out... And also not revealing the affair to anyone ...because most affairs end in six months according to DR
Hardball is more Penny Tupy, W Harley, Phil McGraw etc who don't mince words on teh topic.. They will press for exposure to family and friends, advocate family interventions, exposing the affair to teh OP spouse if they are married, exposure at OP's place of work if they ahve a high profile job etc... major pressure on the romantic fantasy until it becomes a stessful embarassing mess the WS wants to ESCAPE from... AS well the LBS is reccomended to MINIMIZE ALL CONTACT with the ideal being NO CONTACT at ALL... the SILENT treatment and a TIME OUT for the WS
Two very different approaches
THe protection.pdf document and its protection phase letter are part of hardball strategy
This is contrary to what MWD teaches, but is a legitimate approach used by family therapists who specialize in infidelity.. documented in print in books at amazon a well.
