Taylor, If you have been reading the archives, you will have read about depression being the main ingredient to the crisis. Why don't you take some time and read up on depression? When people are depressed, you cannot talk to them. They are in so much pain that all they can focus on will be themselves.
I also have mentioned many, many times on this forum that they are in a very emotional state, as well as others mentioning it. When someone is acting out in an emotional state, you can't reason w/them. They are bouncing off the walls. You cannot sit and try to analyze their every move or comment...why? Because they are spinning out of control and they say and do things off the top of their heads. If you sit and do the analyzing thing, it will drive you crazy.
Yes, you are a thinker, and I am going to say this...you cannot out think them, manipulate or control them. You cannot reason w/them and you cannot corner them for they will come out swinging and most of the time, if they are pushed, the divorce word will come into play.
Read, read and read....not only the board, but read up on depression. The more you read about depression, the more you will see some of the symptoms that your h is exhibiting.
BTW, you asked what stage we thought your h was in....I believe your h is in replay and he's going to be there for a while.
There is no magic potion that you can drop in a caldron and wake them up. They have to wake up in their own time w/o any interruptions by us. Sorry, but you do not have any control over his waking up....only God has that control.
Now, my question to you is this...what are your plans for the weekend? Have you made a list of things that you would like to accomplish while your h is being a pod person? The list should include items that you want or need to do that have been sitting for a while.
