Yeah, I'm all for friendship if we're going to be a couple. If we're not, then I'm not. Since he said he doesn't want to be a couple, then I'm thinking I don't want to hang out with him a couple of times a week. (Am I being unclear?)
I thought maybe someone here would say that MLC no OP should be "bo peep" and friendship as a strategy.
I don't have anything to lose because he's already 'gone.' So if I can withhold or give friendship-- and I mean hanging out, sharing about our lives type of stuff-- and influence him to want to R, then I want to do that.
I know, focus on self. Got it. My methods of self improvement are developing and improving friendships (I tended to be happy with just WH whereas he wanted to go out more), being slightly more open to cooking (very hard one for me, just really hate cooking), and exploring this idea of what it means to be dependent on someone. I've been told over and over (mostly by his family) that I'm too independent. I'm not sure I believe it, but I'm mulling it over.
Thanks again.
me, 30 WH, 29 D born June 2010 M: July 2001 Bomb/S: 1/14/10 Done with it all.
