Okay. I met with the Veteran's Svc. Rep. this a.m. He didn't really have a lot to offer me other than sympathy, but he did make me look at Wh concurrent disability and retirement in a new perspective. I have to make the settlement agreement with him before we go to court as to maintainence obtained from the 100% Disability. It's not that it can't be divided, its that the Dod will not interfere in that respect. So, this leaves me back at square one, coming to an agreeable settlement with husband, even though I don't want a divorce.
Secondly, he is not retired yet, and can't be until doctor releases him from his last surgery, so I have to come up with an agreement that works for NOW and LATER. Thirdly, there is the house to sell, which he does not want, and I do not want, so we are stuck till we sell it.
I believe the call on Wednesday was a panic call, and am inclined to let him sweat a bit longer. Wait for the next phone call from him.
Difficult in that I do't want him back, not like he is, but I do still love him a lot. I'm not at a point where I am forced to come to a settlement agreement yet, but it feels like a defeat to have to contemplate it.
