Husband's behavior is confusing

[Ready2Change]

And he still refuses to move out. I am convinced that he needs to be on his own, doing the single dad thing, shopping for his own groceries, etc. before he will realize what he is giving up. So I am going to move out. If this whole divorce does go through I will need to find a new place anyway, so I plan on renting something for a year with the idea I could always break the lease if needed.

Is this a good idea? Or should I continue to live in the same house as him, spending our evenings and nights separately but acting like all is normal around the kids, basically letting him eat cake? My lawyer says as long as we have the custody issues worked out (our friend of the court appointment is Tuesday) it is fine either way.

waterbur

I have not followed your sitch, but....

I would strongly suggest that you DO NOT MOVE OUT. Set boundaries while he is living there.

Mantra: "I have decided I am no longer going to enable(tolerate) irresponsible behavior" Think about where responsibilities need to be equalized, then make sure you just do your 50%....


Do you have a parenting agreement in place? MsR2C asked me to move out. I did not move out until I had a WRITTEN 50/50 parenting plan in place.

I am enjoying being "Mr Mom". I get my kids at 5, will take them shopping for this weeks food, then 100% my responsibility for this week. Be careful how you think he will respond to things....