"his mother talks to me like i'm four years old. after a week of being treated like a child, i started giving short responses to her questions."
So you chose to act like the child she was treating you as?
This does not seem like an effective way to interact with someone.
"i also got tired of her taking over our home."
Losing Control? In your business?
"the home and christmas tree were designed by me. and she brought so much of my h's childhood christmas ornaments and basically rearranged my tree with everything she brought. she asked my h if it was okay but she wouldn't ask me. my h would say that it's okay. but still, nobody would ask me if it was okay."
You were acting like a child.. remember.
"basically i felt that they erased what i created and made it "theirs". why didn't anybody ask me?"
So.. your feelings were hurt? Rightfully so.
"so when i asked why my ornaments were moved to the back of the tree? she'd go crying to my h and say that i was mad at her and that i made her feel unwelcomed. and that i was threatening her. i never made a threat."
How did you say it? There is the possibility that she is a big baby.. or a manipulator.
"i got tired of the exaggeration and being accused of being mean. so i just left them in their own world."
So.. after things got "out of hand".. you just walked away?
Yes I see that you described how you said it.. but you defining what you said further in your post (leaving them alone.. being distant.. one word answers..) leaves room for doubt in my mind.
How could this have been handled differently?
Anyway.. sorry I have not been around much. I am keeping up. I have been crazy busy at work and it just finally settled down today. I got your other messages and I will do what I can.
When do you actually get the house?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
