Making progress and reconnecting.....ayieee

[CPCajun]

How/when should I set up the transparency and boundries? How should I do this?

Wife, In order to feel safe in our reconciliation, considering the A with OM, I need to know that you're no longer talking, texting, or chatting with him. I would like to see you remove OM off your FB account, Yahoo messenger and email, plus any pictures you have of him.

Something like that?

You can't do this until such time when she sincerely comes to you, contrite and remorseful, and either begs you to take her back or asks "What do I need to do?"

If and when she does that, tell her "I'm afraid it's not that easy anymore," and that you have some thinking to do, and that you'll get back with her in a few days.

Then come here and we can help you with it.

Puppy

P.S. Good job with the MIL convo, esp. owning your past chit. Strength and honor!!

Ok, I must be misunderstanding. I assumed that I was supposed to do this today before it gets swepts under the rug.