Though I like the idea of face to face "right in the eyeballs" approach (it will show my demeanor), I could also launc it as a text to her once I know she is in the vehicle with OM.
That could create an interesting drive.
Of course, I will be unavailable for a day.
That is EXACTLY how it's done.
There'll be plenty of time for face-to-face later on. The idea of this tactic is to completely RUIN their little planned weekend.
I did this once to my wife (it was only a few-hour potential hook-up), and it worked to great effect, judging from what I heard later on the voice-activated recorder.
It's even BETTER if the cheating spouse is planning on taking a PLANE TRIP to meet their lover. Then, you can lob your grenade when they're ON THE TARMAC, getting ready to take off, and they can't even CALL THEIR O.P. -- or anyone else -- UNTIL THEY LAND!!!
"I hope it's worth it, (Wife's first name). You underestimate me. Enjoy your weekend, because there'll be plenty to talk about and get in order when you get back. I think you'll find that things have changed here. - (Your First Name)"
Oh, the other thing is I haven't been able to confirm he is married. Based on the amount of time he is at work or with W, I can't see it being possible unless she was born in Gullibleville, AK.
But I have two people who were pretty sure. Maybe THEY got D'd. I wonder why? Cheating, perhaps?
Got it. I just thought there might be more of a hint as to how much I know. No problem.
If you want to go that route, I would ONLY say "I know all about..." or "I know everything."
There is great power in them not knowing what you know, what you DON'T know, and then therefore they have to assume you know EVERYTHING.
That's why you NEVER reveal the source(s) of your intel, and you NEVER go into any more specifics than you have to. I have even gone so far as to purposely divert them, by saying "I promised someone I wouldn't reveal their confidence, and I'm going to live up to that," when the only source of intel was an inanimate object like a keylogger or a voice recorder. Then you watch the wayward's head spin, as they -- in their paranoia -- try to think of EVERYONE who may have ratted them out . . . including their affair partner!!
I have to agree with Puppy. It almost killed me (literally, lol!) but to this day I have NEVER told my H how I found out all I did. Now keep in mind this started in March of 2008. As of Nov. 2009 we were LEGALLY separated.
My H started his affair sometime in early 2008.
I told him flat out I knew (after 8 months of collecting VERY solid info) but did not tell him I knew until our legal case began.
To this day it eats at him that he has no clue who told him (and if he knew how many people told me, including the higher ups at his company he would die).
He was plain awful to me both emotionally and legally so every so often I would say something very specific that would stop him dead in his tracks.
The day our divorce is final ( and not one minute before) I plan to hand him a big envelope with EVERYTHING. He lives with OW now and he will learn the hard way that his "roommate", co-workers, boss, company higher ups and "friends" aren't quite as loyal as he thought. This envelope also has signed affidavits (saved them in case my attny and I needed them in the future, lol!), photos, phone records... you name it. And it is safely locked in my attnys office.
Every so often he will try and get under my skin by accusing me of having a "mole". Ha! I never knew a thing about it until people started contacting me.
It is SO HARD but trust me, don't reveal your sources.
