Well he took all his clothes when she kicked him out and he said he was going back to his hometown in Indiana (where the woman lives).
I said I doubted he would because he just got a new job teaching at a community college so it would be dumb to leave. He called a bit ago and had gotten a hotel in the area so I knew it...
I do not see her trying again with him. I really don't think she ever loved him... Three years ago when he threatened to kill her and she stayed I told her I thought it was because of her OCD and that she didn't ever want to quit anything, and she would see divorce as a 'failure'. She said I was right. So no I don't think they will reconcile.
I am worried about her mental health. Even though she doesn't love him this is huge for her. She told me many times she didn't leave because who would want a (now) 40 year old woman who couldn't have kids. This morning she was freaking that she could lose their house because they got it with a VA loan considering her H is a veteran.
She is OCD to the point of having medication and she is also major depressed and has been as long as I can remember, even in high school. She was crying this morning that they have zero savings. So she has no money, no kids, no husband, possibly no house. And a history of saying no other man would want her. I would actually not be surprised if she harmed herself.
Plus my parents are not stable, my mom has been depressed for years also ever since her brother died in 2005 and now another brother is dying...this could be the tipping point for her. My counselor says given my family of origin it is amazing I am doing so well!
It sounds awful but if Stacy hurt herself, I could see my parents following suit. Also since her H has threatened to kill her in the past I could see him coming to hurt/kill her. What does he have to lose? He has already been through one divorce and owes child support there, this would take even more of a chunk of $ from him, he has anger issues, a police record for what he did to my sis years back. I already know my dad and if BIL harmed my sister my dad would try to kill him. Seriously. Dad has anger issues, too.
So I am not sure how I can help....but I have been praying for her.
So no I don't think they will reconcile.
