Just found out she already filed

[g450]

I agree with DLS and kat727.

I made the same mistake as you. I walked on egg shells because I was afraid she would take half the house and I would be forced to sell so I treated her like a princess. In my case I have to say it was justified because the end result is that I kept my home. She only took half the savings etc. But that is not the case with you.

And like you I did things for her even after the separation and the divorce. My logic was that if I didn't then she would find some "guy" to do it for her eventually. Well little did I know that she was already having an EA and possibly a PA even before she dropped the bomb so I was a fool.

Once I found out about the affair (post divorce) this changed everything. We have zero contact. I only get bits of info about her from my Son who moved in with her recently.

I still think about her every day of course and it's painful. But to help me go on I try to think of what kind of a 48yr old man would a single or divorced middle aged woman be intersted in? And this helped me set some goals for myself. Working on this has kept me a bit busy so as to look more towards a better future rather than the mundane and lonely existance I have withought her right now.

It has to get better from here. Can't get any worse right?
So go ahead and let her know what life will be like without SR. Give her a reality check and take that cake away from her.