She wanted to know what was going on. I told her exactly what was on Puppys script, plus how I still would like her down for Christmas, as I have to make amends with her too.
She scolded me at first, as I have been awefull to everyone, not just my wife. I sad a few things the last time MIL was down here and we left on a bad note. After we got that out the way,she was very inspriational. She encourged me to keep up with IC, and my 180. She just wish W would go to C too. I told her not to force it, let me take care of myself, and hopefully W will come along in the future. Let it fall into place.
We then discussed my changes and that I still want to save the marriage. She said that W feels that too. She has faith in me, but is cautious that I can still backslide like I did before. I told her, this time is different. I am not angry or mad, even with OM comming in the picture. It just meant I work harder and need to get OM out of the equation. She agreed. We went on about how the kids need a father,since the real dead beat is not in the picture. I must step up and be the father in their life, not just "dad". We joked around a bit and I thanked her for calling. She said we can talk anytime.
Still being cautious, I checked the hpne log and W has kept her word on what I see, no communication between her and OM. I did see where MIL contacted W though.
How/when should I set up the transparency and boundries? How should I do this?
Wife, In order to feel safe in our reconciliation, considering the A with OM, I need to know that you're no longer talking, texting, or chatting with him. I would like to see you remove OM off your FB account, Yahoo messenger and email, plus any pictures you have of him.
Something like that?
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
