[quote]We stopped going out much at all long ago because of having four kids and our work schedules. We stopped making time for each other. Not a big surprise that she missed going out, I did too. I told myself that there would be time for us again after the kids got older. Obviously that is wrong. But I wasn't the one who chose to have an EA with someone else.
I, like many other men here, was co-dependant, passive, and scared of making her mad. I wasn't like that before and guess it started when we had kids. I am ashamed that it took something like this to wake me up. All I can do is learn and better myself.
I'm right there with you buddy. We stopped going out too, but it was primarily because she didn't trust ANYONE enough to leave our kids with, including me. In 10 years we only got a babysitter maybe 3 times. I think that killed it a lot for us.
I still can't believe that I am in this position, but like you, I just have to keep working on it and get ready to move on.
