I agree the transaparency plan needs to be put in place. She is agreeable to cutting off contact. Plus the tools to work on each sides issues needs to be addressed.
Keep leading your family Cajun, finish the job.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.