New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

It does sound like the river of no return.

That's the point.

To take off all the pressure. To make them feel like they are truly losing you.

Then you watch and wait. A lot of them start having second thoughts, start thinking of the good history, the things they'll be losing.

It's definitely about a 95% closing the door.

But I don't think any of us, even when we've resigned ourselves to the D, ever truly give up hope. Deep down, I think all of us who got D'd held out hope til the day it finalized that our STBXs would wake up and say let's stop the paperwork.

The door is only as closed as you make it. If you give the speech, you have to be prepared for the consequences, which definitely could be D. But that doesn't mean you can't keep the door open a little still.

Interesting about your sister and W. I always kept in touch with my SIL, so we never had a break in communication that I can relate to. But it is definitely interesting that she is trying to revive the friendship there. Again, it means one of two things. She is reaching out towards your family to feel out their reaction to her because she is thinking about R, or she is feeling like enough time has passed since the S that she can have a friendship with your sister that is not based on her being M to you.

You can always wait and see.

Good job on the NC.