Good points kat, I needed to hear that especially from a woman's pov, thanks.
I still second guess myself one because the D is not finalized and I don't know why but I feel like I shouldn't piss her off. Two, because me pushing her away I'm sending her straight into someone else's arms (ok I said it). I think the truth of the matter is that she'll do what she wants to do regardless of what I say or do. It's what happened during our last separation.
StupidRomeo,
You already know... That you can't chase or put demands on a wayward because it strengthens their resolve towards their affair. The best thing we can do is usually the opposite of what you think you should do.
Like GAL hard NOT CARING about her while you do it, and pick up your outside attraction even dating and being seen with sexy women who see you as an attractive mate.
Its not good, its not clean, but that jealousy and ownership thing is a powerful force. Plus if her friends are calling her stupid.
But being in the defensive position, staying strong weathering a storm she's kicking up on you doesn't work as we all know.
Get your swag back, if sexy was part of it get that back too.
