You do not think you would be in a better place if you had taken a harder stance earlier?
I'm gonna respond to this again as I've had some time for reflection. I was very upset/sad a couple of weeks ago and doubting the path I had chosen.
I've concluded I made the right choices. If I had taken a harder stance earlier it would have all been a lot messier and more painful for all involved. I talked some of this out with a friend recently and their third party perspective help me come to this conclusion.
I have my moments about being divorced and co-parenting the kids but emotionally I'm OK as far as X is concerned.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13