Or pup you can use the classic "Hope for the best, prepare for the WORST"
It's more or less the same thing... and I don't think QS has prepared himself for divorce or his wife inevitably being with another man at all...
QS was your wife with another man before you two got married? I ask this often of men who have trouble dealing... They dealt with it enough to MARRY a woman who wasn't a virgin... but for some (understanable) reason its not the same AFTER teh marriage... its like they become a virgin again before your honeymoon... magically
Well, the truth is your wife is halfway having sex already... you will have to suck that up... If that's hwat you are afraid of... You will need to accept that she's going to have sex with SOMEONE a SOME point and ACCEPT her for a person, not some virgin mary... Cause she's not...
Ok last night was a little weird. She went to bed early, so I fully expected her to then sneak on her laptop and chat with him again. Or text or call him.
She didn't text him, she didn't get on the computer, just went to bed. Somehow I thought she might have really been offended by the last FB message he sent her.; It was really demeaning and horrible. And I thought she might have told him to buzz off with the 2 texts she sent him yesterday morning about an hour after getting his message.
But she sent him a text this morning after leaving for work. She deletes all her texts she send to him, so I have no way of knowing what she is saying. I guess I am going to assume that she isn't mad at him at all.
Now is the time to call his CO, and to be honest I am terrified. I know how bad last time was and I only messaged HIM. Now I am attacking him at his place of work.
things can get worse I guess. I could call and his CO could do nothing about it, he then tells her I called, she explodes, and then nothing changes between her and him.
I need some strength here. I am supposed to be served today, so that adds onto it all. I am really, really scared this will all just backfire and make my life a living hell.
The CO is going to do something, it his job after all. Adultery is a punishable offence in the military.
Well I manned up AND DID IT. But I couldn't find his REAL CO.
I finally happened to call a certain office, and a seemingly helpful officer listened to everything I had to say. He asked me to send everything I had, and that he would get in touch with his CO and chain of command. He seemed interested in getting to the bottom of this, and having it resolved.
I sent some pretty damning evidence.
Oh and I got served the papers today too. Now the ninety day clock starts really ticking. Guess it was a good time to RAIN DOWN SOME HELL.
I feel very empowered now, as HE brought these consequences on HIMSELF.
Oh and that officer just responded, and said he forwarded it to his CO. Now he says that he has no control of what the CO will do, but that he has "encouraged" him to take appropriate action. He said he will let me know what the CO response is.
Now it's a wait and see for either him or her to come at me, or both.
I am FULLY expecting Hell to start raining down on me too. What a day!
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
I would continue to attempt to contact CO to make sure his fellow officer got him the message. Ensure that he has all the information he needs.
I'm sure Allan A has described information which is going to be useful for you, but just for my thoughts what is going to be useful:
1. Phone records 2. Copies of text messages 3. Copies of emails 4. Contraceptive devices 5. Audio recordings 6. Video or images sent between them 7. Key to apt, clothing articles 8. Testimony from fellow soldiers or civilians confirming the affair 9. Hotel reciepts
Also like I tell anyone being cheated on, take care of your physical health, this would include diet and excercise. Also you may want to take up a martial art class and take it seriously, one that is going to help you in a street fight.
Knowing you've been served today, your wife is going to expect a quivering blob of pitiful QS today. Don't give her the satisfaction. Positive, upbeat, confident. Not polly-anna-ish annoyingly so, but strong and resolved.
If at any point she asks you "How're you doing?" you tell her "Surprisingly well -- I know I'll be fine, regardless. This isn't what I wanted, but I know now that I'll be just fine." And you will. I promise.
I am just hoping his CO responds and talks to him TODAY. Otherwise I have to run interference ALL WEEKEND. Why? Because the Hell won't have hit him yet, and he will think everything is OK. And he will continue to sex chat up my wife.
I know they are planning some video sessions while she is away. And phone ones too. But if he at least gets hit on Monday, then that night shouldn't be so much fun for them, should he decide to keep contacting her.
And I don't need to worry about him. I am WELL connected where I live. Should he try and come up here, it will be the biggest mistake of his life.
I have had my butt kicked before. You get over it. You don't get over 5-7 in prison for felony assault. And it's not like I wouldn't hurt him some as well. So he'd be in jail with a few cuts and lost teeth.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
On your bit, don't tell them $hit. Let them get feedback from the CO and his staff. I would continue attempting to contact that CO to ensure he got all the information he needed.
I might have missed this, but who pays for the internet at your house? Why the hel1 is she sex chatting from your house? I thought you had some computer knowledge? I would be blocking her laptop's MAC address from the router. Why are you allowing this in your house?
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I have had my butt kicked before
DOOD!!! What kind of weak a$$ statement is that? If you don't quit with this thinking, I'm gonna come kick your butt. Come on! Who says you won't tear HIM up???
Me 44 She 46 S13 D9 M18 T23 3 years DB'ing Successfully busted
