The more you learn about MLC, the more you try to put yourself in your H's place (as much as you can), the closer you will get to it.
BINGO...
The issue with an A IMO is who is getting angry? Who feels the emotions of being betrayed? Who feels that there self respect has been impacted? In all cases it is usually the LBS.
So a few things that you should ponder...
1) Do YOU want to remain angry? I suspect not. If so, then how do you release YOURSELF of this anger. Forgiviness.
2) Do YOU want to remain in this emotional rollercoaster? Probably not. Who controls that? Who has real control over YOUR feelings? I will give you an hint..or better yet some advice. The more YOU allow someone else to control YOUR emotions the more loss of control YOU will feel.
3) Self respect....an interesting topic IMO.. What is it? Who controls it? How is it controlled? Is your self respect tied to YOUR fear? It is tied to how YOU see YOURSELF. All questions that YOU must answer - not YOUR H.
Tay - as you can see from the above....count the number of ties I say "YOU"..
YOU are responsible for YOU - not for your H. Your H is responsible for himself. Hence....focus on YOU and stop looking for you H to validate who YOU are, how YOU feel, how you percieve YOURSELF.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
