Ltaylor, forgiveness takes time. The more you learn about MLC, the more you try to put yourself in your H's place (as much as you can), the closer you will get to it.
Remember that forgiveness is for you, not your husband. Forgiving him releases you from the anger, or at least much of it, and helps you accept the situation as it is today. What helped me was my absolute refusal to let my H's betrayal define me, rule my life going forward, and make me into an angry and bitter LBS. I simply could not keep carrying those feelings and hope to move forward in a healthy and positive way. I HAD to forgive him, for me, and I worked hard to get there. Then I told him once that I had, and have never spoken of the A or the OW since.
Keep reading and learning. Look for understanding and compassion. You will get there when you know you have to.
M 65 H 64 T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08 Two Ds
Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man
